Angelina Jolie conversations are almost always a guaranteed heated debate between the lovers and haters camps. Susan and I have talked about Angelina Jolie on a few occassions, and we ended up doing a video called “Jennifer Anniston Got Screwed”, which was recieved quite heatedly by the Jolie lovers’ camp. Talk about brutal comments! LOL…we were litterally lambasted by fanatical followers of Jolie on Youtube, and it was actually quite amusing to see just how many people defended her like she was their own child. Our sincere aplogies for having an opinion…NOT!
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So then, out comes the Branjolina tell-all book by Ian Halperin (December 1, 2009). Halperin has written several other books and his #1 seller about Micheal Jackson (prior to Jackson’s untimely death, which Halperin also predicted) was equally as controversial with fans. My first thought was that Halperin would have to go into hiding like Salman Rushdie until the Jolie fanatics calmed down enough to put their steely knives away…in say 30 years?

Here’s the round up on Halperin’s new book, titled Branjolina and released December 1st, 2009:

1. Halperin states he knew that Anniston and Pitt were over long before anyone else did

2. Says that Jon Vought (Jolie’s Father) was an exemplurary father and the rumors otherwise are wrong

3. Halperin says he went out of his way to be fair to Angelina and Brad in this book

4. States that Jolie has a major problem with anger and has sought professional help for years because her violent outbursts. He says it’s so bad that she can literally turn on you in an instant.

5. Talks in detail about Angelina’s ability to be the “Master of Misdirection”, meaning that everything she does is for a destinct purpose to hide the ugly truths about her.

6. Halperin has the balls to say that he knows more about Angelina than Brad Pitt does, and that Brad will be the first in line to get a copy of his book. Modest? Not so much!

7. Haplerin gladly admits that Jolie and Pitt have put themselves in danger on many occassions while working on their humanitarian efforts. It is said that they donated over 6 million dollars to charity in 2009.

8. In a Howard Stern interview, Halperin predicts that the couple will have split in within the next 12-18 months

9. Talks about Jolie’s drug addictions, incest with her brother (she publically kissed him quite passionately at the Oscars) and her stints in psychiatric wards.

10. States he went under cover on many occassions (even to the pshych ward Jolie was admitted to) to get the truth – the real story behind the woman everybody loves to hate

11. Says Jolie is an amazing talent, but not many of her films have made money. The few films that she has done well, have paid off hugely.

At the end of the day, based on Halperin’s research, it appears that Susan and I were quite right on our observations about Jolie and the affair that nobody wants to admit happend between Joile and Pitt while Anniston & Pitt were still married. Are we patting ourselves on the back a bit – well, yes! But the real point of this blog post is to emphasize Howard Stern’s observation on the subject of Jolie, and that is “She went from Lunatic to Princess.” Master of misdirection indeed!

Who seriously wants to be single during Valentines Day or through the Christmas / New Years holidays? Chances are that list is a short one, but all too often couples that are struggling in their relationship decide to break up just before these “big” events.

What is the psychology behind this thinking? The answer is that commitment becomes the forefront of the relationship around major holidays and people are often forced to come to terms with how they really feel about their partners.

Valentines Day is associated with love and romance, so if you aren’t feel it, then it will only amplify the stress fracture in your relationship’s foundation. The Christmas & New Year’s holidays are associated with family, love, caring, sharing, giving, celebrations, and for those who are not feeling confident in their relationships, this can be a heart wrenching time. Sometimes they panic and just jump ship. Sometimes they hang on through the holidays and then break it off with their partner just shortly after.

The problem with this is that it is twice as hard on the person who gets let go of. We all know that 90% of the time when people break up the recipient of the bad news is “the last one to know” and often is quite shocked. Add that to doing the deed just before a major holiday or time of celebration and you’ve offered up a double whammy. Not to mention it is super embarrassing to have to tell your family and friends that your boy/girlfriend broke up with you just before Christmas or Valentines Day!

If you are in that kind of situation now, and with Valentines Day fast approaching, please consider how hard this will be on the one you are thinking of breaking up with. Nobody wants to visit the Heartbreak Hotel. Decide if this is really just you feeling pressured by the upcoming national celebration of love day, or if it’s something much deeper that is making you consider moving on without them.

Please have a conversation with them and talk about the things that you feel are wrong with your relationship. Please do not wait until two days before any major event to tell them you can’t be with them anymore. And please, for crying out loud, do NOT break up with them over the phone or by sending them a text message! If you do, you will go down in flames with not only your ex, but also anybody s/he tells about it. Another really horrible thing to do is to start dating somebody else before you break up with your current partner. I’ve been both the culprit and the recipient of this scenario, and trust me when I tell you it is THE most hurtful thing you could possibly do to another emotionally.

It is THE hardest thing to tell somebody face to face that it is over – you are done – you can’t be with them anymore. On the flip side, you will be respected, you will get to properly hear their thoughts on what is wrong with the relationship, you might learn a thing or two about yourself that makes you a better person and you will both be better people for dealing with it in a mature manner.

Who knows, maybe all the things you thought you could not change are in fact easily fixed. Maybe you will discover that a time out is the answer, rather than a full-blown ”I bought you a one way ticket to Lonelyville.” Maybe you will discover that your partner is also feeling that it is time to move on. If you don’t ask the questions, you will not get the answers that help you and your partner move forward, whether it’s together or apart.

Cheers, Sandra.

Jingle bell, jingle bell, we’re getting high,
Smoking a bong, and wondering why,
We’re getting hungry and think we’re so fun
It’s than damn BC Bud again….

Giddy up, sit up, attempting to walk
It’s enough to just try to talk…
Our mouth is dry and can’t feel our feet
That’s the BC Bud…
That’s the BC Bud
That’s the damn BC Bud….

Web Series THE EX-HOUSEWIVES OF VANCOUVER-EPISODE-#4 (Follow Up with Carly Campbell from Ep#1)

Host Susan McCord goes on location to Ceilis Lounge in Vancouver to see Ex-housewife Rocker Chick, Carly Campbell perform Live with her band. Self esteem has worked it’s magic and Carly is back from her divorce with a vengence! Her performance is electric and not without an entourage of young male admirers! She is one sexy hot divorcee and full of life. Her dating world has opened up since her last interview and she is having the time of her life. Carly is an inspiration to other ex-housewives out there everywhere!

Web Series THE EX-HOUSEWIVES OF VANCOUVER-EPISODE #3 With Luba Sasowski

Beautiful Ex-Housewife Luba, shares her story of the breakup of her long term relationship and the demise of her job in the corporate business world. Once her large pay cheque took a spiral downward, her Ex became less interested in them as a couple. Her life fell apart so badly she ended up in hospital in a pretty bad state. The toxicity of both her job and her relationship became too much to bear. Less than a year later, Luba’s self-esteem bounced back stronger than ever and now owns her own business. Her dream of having a unique and inexpensive waxing salon became a reality and she is now on her way to a successful career where her passions have always been.

Web Series ” THE EX-HOUSEWIVES OF VANCOUVER-EPISODE #2 With Kerri Cates

Kerri is a personal fitness trainer in Vancouver who left her 7 year common-law relationship due to an abusive and addictive situation. Her Ex became heavily involved with hard drugs and Bank Robbery. His numerous arrests and jail time left Kerry with a broken heart and much needed repair to her self esteem. Listen to her story and how she got through it all to become the women she is today. Everyone can learn to move on from even the scariest scenario with an Ex.

Interviews with the Ex-Housewives Of Vancouver is a New WEB SERIES with beavertalk.com Host Susan McCord. This is an inspirational show with interesting stories from Divorced Women of Vancouver British Columbia. The first episode is an interview with Carly Campbell who has been divorced for 5 years and how she has evolved since the demise of her relationship. She is a singer/songwriter& performer at numerous venues in the club scene downtown Vancouver. She is single but happy and enjoying her dating life with her new attitude and renewed self-esteem. Check back later for a follow up video of Carly in the coming weeks to see how she is progressing.

This is a subject that needs addressing. How often do you have to listen to your friends rehashing their past relationships over and over again? They never seem to get over them? This happens way too often! Susan & Sandra discuss the problems with burdening your friends and family with constantly bringing up old relationships.

Yes it hurt when they broke up with you. Yes it hurt when they cheated on you. Yes it hurt when they moved out and didn’t tell you why. Everyone has a story and they all hurt terribly regardless of how your relationship ended.

Relationships are there for a reason, season or a lifetime. Sometimes we just pick the wrong people to fall in love with (over and over again). We don’t see the red flags that scream “they’ve found somebody new”. Either way, regardless of how it happened, you need to get over it in a timely manner. Your friends will listen to you, and advise you, and care, but ONLY if you learn from the situation or get professional help if you need it.

Only a true friend will have the courage to say “I’m tired of hearing about your break up” or “I’m done watching you repeat the same mistakes”. It would be a wise idea to listen and get your act together. When you have overstayed your welcome in the “woe-is-me” department, you could lose important people in your life, by abusing your their generosity in listening to you whine about your Ex for 2 years. Get a grip, get over it and please move on, it’s time…..xoxo The Beavers.

VIEWER QUESTION:

Hi Susan,
I am a single Mom who is starting to go stir crazy due to the lack of male affection I receive. My son is 12 years old and I have raised him by myself for 9 years. His father has limited contact due to his “busy lifestyle”, which gives me 90% access time with my son. I am starting to forget what sex is, and do not want to become one of these bitter women who really just need to get laid! I would be happy if I just had sex once every 2 weeks at this point. It doesn’t have to be a relationship, but I would like it to be with the same guy. Can you steer me in the right direction?
Lonely Mom

ANSWER:

I can totally relate to your question as I had a similar situation while raising my son. There is definitely something to be said for having every other weekend to yourself when your child goes to see the other parent! We all need to re-energize! Our “Friends with Benefits” video may be a good one for you to watch, as we talk about having a partner that is strictly for sex, (with very few strings attached.)

Is your Ex abstaining from enjoying a good sex-life? I think not! Times have changed and both sexes deserve to feel loved or at least sexually satisfied. Get yourself out there and meet a great guy that you can have reciprocal interludes with. You can set your own boundaries and still feel good about yourself. Put that spring back in your step, wipe off the cobwebs and enjoy what nature gave you to use. Orgasms are the new Prozac for Single Moms!
xoxo Susan McCord

VIEWER QUESTION:

I have a friend that is very depressed that she is still single at 40. She has never been married but turns her nose up at men she meets that have also not been married. She also makes comments on trivial things about men and won’t see them again because of it. I don’t understand her double standard and feel this is why she isn’t meeting someone. I have told her she is being negative, and her “high Maintenance checklist” is ruining her chance of meeting a quality man. She just shrugs it off. She is becoming bitter and it is hard to be around her. I seem to be her only support and her family has never been there for her. What advice do you have for her?
Concerned Pal

ANSWER:

What a great “pal” you are for taking the time to write on her behalf. The message I get from what you wrote, is that she is sabotaging her own happiness by finding fault with each guy she meets. Many people do not feel they deserve to be in a loving relationship and judging by what you said about her family, this is probably the case.

If you weren’t shown love as a child, it is hard to know what it is, or how to bring it into your life. She sounds like she may be getting angry as the years go by, because she hasn’t dealt with this underlying issue. It is interesting how human nature works sometimes. The one thing we really want, we push away! It is all about self-esteem in the end. I would advise that your friend seek some counseling very soon, or she will not only remain single, but also lose you and other friends who are tired of her negativity. It’s never too late to make changes in your life.
xoxo the beavers