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When we take the wedding vow, we truly do have intentions of being together forever, but with the divorce rate on the incline, couples are getting nervous! People are starting to understand that just because you are married, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t put effort into your appearance or sex life! Sex is a huge part of the relationship glue and if it is ignored for any length of time, it can be the beginning of the end.

Sandra and I both sawGrey’s Anatomy the other night when a couple in their 50’s came into the hospital due to a sex romp gone bad. They were trying to spice up their sex-life and keep the fires burning, but got caught in an embarrassing position, so to speak (Always read the fine print LOL)

Many people complain that when you get married, once the honeymoon is over, sex becomes less frequent and mundane. There is no forbidden fruit or the excitement of a new sexual partner. It becomes somewhat complacent and repetitive and in some cases almost non-existent!

Be creative in your marriage. I once was caught by a co -worker in an elevator with my ex-husband, I have never lived that one down! A married friend of mine had a few strata problems, when she made a spectacle of herself on top of the communal washing machine. Another time at one of my son’s hockey tournaments, a couple of married parents got caught having sex in front of the hotel window. Man that was a riot! I can still visualize it!

There may be a 7-year itch, but the 20-year break-up gone wild is taking over right now! Is this because of people whom married at 20, are bored by 40? In days gone past, people just stayed together because of limitations. Both sexes have careers now, and are on more equal footing.

Being 40 is not considered OLD anymore, and many people are starting the second half of their life with a new vision, which sometimes includes a new partner. Life offers many temptations in the millennium and people have to work harder to keep their relationships strong. Many women are now dating younger men, and it is not just the husbands leaving the marital home for a younger person anymore.

Here are a few tips to think about keeping sex alive in your marriage:

How many times a week should married couples have sex?
Sex should be initiated by both sexes!
No tighty-whiteys or big girl panties
Sex may have to be planned, at least on one of the couples’ part, or 2 weeks could go by with being too busy.
Married life can be busy with kids and careers, so make dates and mark them on the calendar. Both sexes need to read up on what changes are going on in relationships and to keep up new and exciting trends.
Dress sexy even at home, no sweatpants! (Unless they are sexy like Lulu Lemon or Juicy Couture)
Pay for a babysitter to take the kids out so you can have sex at home without worrying they can hear your moans!
Don’t leave the house without a hug or kiss good-bye. When your spouse walks in the front door, always get up and greet them!
Kiss your spouse like you did when you first met, its great foreplay
Bring home little sex treats

Men have Viagra and women still do not have a legally marketed sex enhancer. Many women go through hormone changes from 35 onwards and it can be tough to feel sexual. It is a good idea to get a saliva test to get an accurate reading of what is going on with your estrogen, progesterone and testosterone. This can help alleviate on going problems and help you sexually.

Viagra can also be intimidating to many wives, because now they feel like they have to perform continually. It is a wise idea to let your wife know when you decide to take Viagra LOL (Blue balls are not pleasant at any age) Communication is the foundation to any successful marriage. Learning how to talk with your spouse from day one, will keep you emotionally close. When you have respect for each other and have continual communication, your sex-life will never fall too far behind to cause marital problems. Marriage is work to some degree but with a little effort you and your spouse can stay on the other side of the statistics! xoxo the beavers