Stalker Moms
Posted On Friday, June 5th, 2009 By admin
We have all seen the overbearing mom that just seems to be at every event and very often heads up the PTA meetings as President. While this may be OK for elementary school kids, what happens when Mommy keeps up the stalker-mom tradition when you are married with your own children?
In the sitcom “Everyone Loves Raymond”, Raymond’s mom is a good example of what this segment is all about. She is a troublemaker and cause rifts between her son and his wife regularly.
Some moms just can’t let go…(I was probably a bit of a stalker-mom when my son played hockey.) Sports can be bring out the mama bear who wants to protect her cubs. Anyone who threatens her baby is fair game!
There is also the June Cleaver from “Leave It To Beaver” type, who is the perfect mother and wife. Her whole life revolves around catering to her family’s needs. It is obsessive but not as obtrusive as those controlling and meddling Mommy’s. Obsessive Mom’s don’t want their kids to grow up and keep them around the house longer by making life simple for them. They let them stay rent free in the renovated private basement suite with the 54in Flat screen TV, till they are 30.
It may sound wonderful that she cares so much, but junior will not be a self-sufficient partner down the road. They have had everything done for them since infancy! It builds character when life doesn’t always run so smoothly. The trials and tribulations of life, give a person substance.
If you are a single mom, don’t make your child pay the price of your loneliness. They are not your best friend. They are not there to entertain you and you are not there to live vicariously through them either. You are two individuals who need to respect mother/child boundaries.
My son invites me to things, which sometimes involve his friends. To be honest, it makes me feel a little uncomfortable. Not with him, but with the others. Are they really going to tell him they don’t want his mom there? He can be protective over me, and who knows what he says to them. I don’t want to be known as a stalker-mom because I am hanging out with his friends.
As a parent you need to be aware of how much is too much of anything!
· Dressing like a Cougar
· Embarrassing photos or messages on Facebook
· Calling or texting them repeatedly
· Where and when to lecture
· Know when to cut off your alcohol (when you are with your kid)
· Do not give them your business card if you have a Beaver talk show
· Don’t tell them your bedroom sex stories
· If you are single, do not hang a pull- tab number system on the front door…NEXT!
· Do not bring a wedding planner to every meeting of your kid’s new girl/guy
xoxo the beavers
