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Gay Pride Parade day is a very colorful annual event in the heart of downtown Vancouver, B.C. 700,000 straight & gay people came out to celebrate this huge party! Talk show host Susan McCord interviews a variety of interesting people on the dating market in Vancouver and one couple from Seattle.
Susan McCord @ http://www.Vancouverdatingrelationshipadvice.com

A boyfriend writes in to Talk Show about how to deal with his girlfriends newly acquired odor down there. How does he tell her and what can be done about it?
Susan McCord @ http://www.vancouverdatingrelationship.com
Andrea Wesley @ http://www.MusicToMySoul-Tulip.Blogspot.com

Two women from two generations discuss a viewer question about how long a sex session should last when in a relationship.
Susan McCord @
http://www.vancouverdatingrelationshipadvice.com
Andrea Wesley @ http://www.MusicToMySoul-Tulip.Blogspot.com

Episode #8 on the on going Web Series: “The Ex-housewives Of Vancouver”! Musician and single mom, Jacqui Brown, gives her inspiring story of how she got past her common law breakup & moved on with her successful music career while raising her young son.
Susan McCord @ http://www.youtube.com/twobeavers
http://www.interviewtalkshow.com

Dating Advice:

Are you sabotaging every date you have due to your insecurities? Everyone has self esteem issues to some degree and no one is flawless. Try to remember that most people are a little frightened putting themselves out there in the dating market. It is not easy at any age but it is always worth finding love. There is someone for everyone!
Susan McCord@ http://www.youtube.com/twobeavers
Andrea Wesley@ http://www.MusicToMySoul-Tulip.Blogspot.com
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Another episode of the Web Series, “The Ex-housewives of Vancouver”. An attractive woman gives her view of the demise of her marriage and how it has changed her life.
Susan McCord @ http://www.beavertalk.com
http://www.interviewtalkshow.com http://www.youtube.com/twobeavers
Sharon Graystone -Guest Housewife

Two women discuss some funny & not so funny dates they have had or their friends have encountered. It doesn’t matter what age you are, dates come in all shapes, sizes and weirdness. One man has his say regarding his opinion on stalker chicks.

Bad dates can include a variety of circumstances from boredom to something embarrassing that occurred on your date. It could be a really bad setup or a dangerous scenario that you ignored. Your intuition should always be your number one guide when putting yourself out there into the dating market.

Things to be aware of on a first date:

• Are they attentive to you & do they make eye contact?
• Did they make an effort with their appearance?
• Is the conversation shared equally?
• Are they respectful?
• Do they make you feel special?
• Were they on time for the date?
• Did they reschedule the date more than once?
• Do they bring up sex right away?
• Do they take you to your car or your front door after the date ends?
• Are you opposites?

What do you do if you are uncomfortable and want to leave? Many people are too nice to say anything controversial. It is always a good idea to have a “set time limit” on the first few dates so they are aware that you have to be somewhere else. Set a time for a friend to call. Have a code word for whether the date is a success or not. Do not go to their house or let them pick you up until you have established a trust & rapport with them.

One of the ways to prevent some disaster dates is by pre-screening. Don’t take your friend or family’s word for it that he/she is perfect for you. Ask the questions that are important to you. Requesting a photo is not unreasonable or shallow. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and everyone has different taste. Use the technology at your fingertips. Google them!

Carrie Bradshaw from “Sex and the City,” says that first dates are like job interviews with Cocktails. How true is that statement! When applying for a job you are paying attention to what they are saying and what they are offering you. When someone talks about themselves for the entire first date, what did they learn about you? They really don’t need to see you again they just need a reflection of themselves in the mirror. Nervousness is one thing but arrogance is another. Caring about another person is the first rule of dating. If it is all about them in the beginning, chances are, it will always be.

Should you be honest if the date is rude? Most people do not know how to express themselves. If the date is bad they just let it go as an experience. You could make a difference in their life by telling them what bothered you and maybe they will learn from it. Everyone deserves to be happy and some people really do not know how they come across. You may have been put in their path to teach them something. Life lessons are not always about us.

When planning a date, always have a alternative option in case your original plan gets altered due to the weather, kids, or work problems. It shows you are spontaneous and have some organizational skills and respect for their time by not bailing on the date, you are compromising to keep from canceling. The first few dates should not include alcohol. You need to keep a clear head when meeting someone for the first time just as you would in that job interview. If you must have a few cocktails, do not email, text or call them after drinking.
Susan McCord youtube.com/twobeavers
Andrea Wesley examiner.com/Andrea Wesley

Mixed signals, is a dating topic that many people question! It seems that men and women cannot get past the first 3 or 4 dates dues to the mixed signals they are receiving. What is going on & why has that not changed over the years? Insecurities and past hurts are what keep people from having normalcy in their relationships. Everyone gets their rule book out and if their date doesn’t pass the test early on, they are deleted from their blackberry. The effort is not put forth anymore to really get to know someone and accept some of their imperfections.

Some women can play games with communication and make a man guess what they are thinking or what is bothering them. Women punish their partner with the silent treatment when they are upset about something. Men can also be bad at communication by ignoring the woman’s cold shoulder thinking she will get over it if he just lets her be. This usually has the opposite affect.

In the beginning, when getting to know your date, friendship should be the priority before sex & intimacy, rule your heart. Being sexually compatible is important and many people do not want to waste their time if the chemistry isn’t there between the sheets. Intimacy changes everything for a woman, and new expectations come into play.

Playing games every other week to try to fight for leadership & control is very dangerous. Some relationships seem to have one partner that wants continual control. This usually ends up being the demise of the partnership when the other half gets tired of the obvious game.

Mixed Signals can also come in the form of pushing the relationship too fast & then a month later they are not as interested anymore. This is a very common scenario especially if sex was introduced too quickly. There is an old expression that when someone comes in too fast to the relationship, they usually go out, just as fast!

Being aware that the type of person you are attracting, is the key to long lasting love. By choosing people who are commitment phobic, could mean you are not ready yourself to commit. Another mistake some people make is by needing their friend’s approval. It is best to make your own assumptions first by listening to your intuition. Some of your friends may be jealous or judgmental of your new flame and say things to sabotage it.

Dating later in life can be difficult as you may less tolerant. If your space feels threatened it may make you pull back, especially if both parties are fresh out of a relationship. There is a reason why you hurt after a break-up, and you are supposed to take time to heal. How can you possibly be whole? You just take your emotional baggage into the next relationship even if you don’t think you do. Galloping on the next horse is not always a good ride, it’s just a different one.

Ask your date what they are looking for. Don’t be afraid to find out early, it may be the opposite of where you see yourself and you can discuss that with them. Diplomacy should be used and a leave the checklist at home. Body language gives away many answers if you are paying attention, which is what dating is all about.

Listen clearly to what they say. If they say they don’t want to be in a committed relationship and that is important to you, move on. They have told you honestly. If they are playing a game or hard to get, you really don’t want to waste time trying to figure that out. Relationships don’t have to be that difficult. People make them that way because they try to change each other rather than listen to who their date really is.

Don’t get caught up in this cat and mouse game. Learn early on whether it is worth pursuing. Learn to listen to what they are saying and not only what you want to hear. The more often you get on the treadmill of dating people who send mixed signals, the more you will lose your trust for a future mate. It is wise to take some time away from dating if there is a pattern developing because it could be you, and not them, that is causing the demise of your happiness with someone special.
Susan McCord

Established musician Jacqui Brown from Vancouver, discusses her “new album” that is now being recorded with another well know musician, John Burton (Doug & The Slugs.) Jacqui & John are regulars in the “Vancouver Music Industry” and have a great following!

Susan McCord @http://www.youtube.com/twobeavers

http://www.interviewtalkshow.com

CONTACT Email: susanmccord9@gmail.com

Love is not an easy part of life and most people have had their share of drama in this department. The movie, “It’s complicated”, starring Meryl Streep, Alec Baldwin, & Steve Martin depicts this in a humorous fashion that audiences of all ages can relate to. The basis of this movie is an ex-husband (who has remarried to a much younger woman) falls back in love with his ex-wife and they secretly have an affair. The writers are brilliant and the dialogue is witty with hilarious one liners.

After a break-up, couples go through a huge emotional upheaval, but do the feelings of their initial love ever really go away? There are different types of love and “time frames” in which individuals move on from the hurt. Some people never get over it while others start over in their new lives without a glitch. Is the grass really greener on the other side? Do people walk away too easily today and jump into another relationship because it’s fresh & uncomplicated? Is it our ego or our hearts that are actually feeling the pain when someone walks away? Isn’t there a secret desire for most people to want their ex to regret walking away from the relationship? How many people seek revenge by looking good? Jenny Craig and boot camps become their new best friends. Why isn’t this practiced within the partnership on a regular basis? Is it complacency, laziness or boredom that changes things? Relationship commitment should be run like a business. What company would quit trying to make money or let their concept die? It is a long term investment, not a penny stock.

Look at how many couples consummate their break-ups. As Meryl Streep said in the movie, “It’s Ex with benefits.” (It can be sweet revenge if they are still with the other person that they left the marriage for.) Do you really want to play the devil against karma though? If & when the opportunity arises for a rekindling of romance from the person who left you, it should not be ignored. This is the time to ask the questions & look back at your relationship with a new clarity you acquired from your time apart. The relationship may look completely different now. Dr. John Gray has numerous videos & books on how men & women need to understand each other and it is worth investing time in outside help. We all play a part in relationship breakups and to change the pattern and move on to a more fulfilling path, there has to be acknowledgment.

In the movie, Meryl admitted her faults and chose to move on with a new partner. Not an easy decision when her past love was still there and begging her forgiveness. Understanding and knowing when the relationship has run its course is the lesson to be learned. Having the strength to deal with it, embrace it and own your part in it, is a beautiful life lesson. It may hurt in the process but it will feel like graduation day all over again when you get finally grasp the reality.
Susan McCord

Meet “Free4all, the amazing Acapella foursome from the United States. These attractive young men entertain guests
on numerous cruises around the world. They only formed this group in November of 2009, but have been singing
individually for a few years. Il Divo comes to mind when watching them perform.

Jingle bell, jingle bell, we’re getting high,
Smoking a bong,and wondering why,
We’re getting hungry and think we’re so fun
It’s than damn BC Bud again….

Giddy up, sit up, attempting to walk
It’s enough to just try to talk…
Our mouth is dry and can’t feel our feet
That’s the BC Bud…
That’s the BC Bud
That’s the damn BC Bud…

Web Series THE EX-HOUSEWIVES OF VANCOUVER-EPISODE-#4 (Follow Up with Carly Campbell from Ep#1)

Host Susan McCord goes on location to Ceilis Lounge in Vancouver to see Ex-housewife Rocker Chick, Carly Campbell perform Live with her band. Self esteem has worked it’s magic and Carly is back from her divorce with a vengeance! Her performance is electric and not without an entourage of young male admirers! She is one sexy hot divorcee and full of life. Her dating world has opened up since her last interview and she is having the time of her life. Carly is an inspiration to other ex-housewives out there everywhere!

Web Series THE EX-HOUSEWIVES OF VANCOUVER-EPISODE #3 With Luba Sasowski

Beautiful Ex-Housewife Luba, shares her story of the breakup of her long term relationship and the demise of her job in the corporate business world. Once her large pay cheque took a spiral downward, her Ex became less interested in them as a couple. Her life fell apart so badly she ended up in hospital in a pretty bad state. The toxicity of both her job and her relationship became too much to bear. Less than a year later, Luba’s self-esteem bounced back stronger than ever and now owns her own business. Her dream of having a unique and inexpensive waxing salon became a reality and she is now on her way to a successful career where her passions have always been.

Web Series ” THE EX-HOUSEWIVES OF VANCOUVER-EPISODE #2 With Kerri Cates

Kerri is a personal fitness trainer in Vancouver who left her 7 year common-law relationship due to an abusive and addictive situation. Her Ex became heavily involved with hard drugs and Bank Robbery. His numerous arrests and jail time left Kerry with a broken heart and much needed repair to her self esteem. Listen to her story and how she got through it all to become the women she is today. Everyone can learn to move on from even the scariest scenario with an Ex.

Interviews with the Ex-Housewives Of Vancouver is a New WEB SERIES with beavertalk.com Host Susan McCord. This is an inspirational show with interesting stories from Divorced Women of Vancouver British Columbia. The first episode is an interview with Carly Campbell who has been divorced for 5 years and how she has evolved since the demise of her relationship. She is a singer/songwriter & performer at numerous venues in the club scene downtown Vancouver. She is single but happy and enjoying her dating life with her new attitude and renewed self-esteem. Check back later for a follow up video of Carly in the coming weeks to see how she is progressing.

This is a subject that needs addressing. How often do you have to listen to your friends rehashing their past relationships over and over again? They never seem to get over them? This happens way too often! Susan & Sandra discuss the problems with burdening your friends and family with constantly bringing up old relationships.

Yes it hurt when they broke up with you. Yes it hurt when they cheated on you. Yes it hurt when they moved out and didn’t tell you why. Everyone has a story and they all hurt terribly regardless of how your relationship ended.

Relationships are there for a reason, season or a lifetime. Sometimes we just pick the wrong people to fall in love with (over and over again). We don’t see the red flags that scream “they’ve found somebody new”. Either way, regardless of how it happened, you need to get over it in a timely manner. Your friends will listen to you, and advise you, and care, but ONLY if you learn from the situation or get professional help if you need it.

Only a true friend will have the courage to say “I’m tired of hearing about your break up” or “I’m done watching you repeat the same mistakes”. It would be a wise idea to listen and get your act together. When you have overstayed your welcome in the “woe-is-me” department, you could lose important people in your life, by abusing your their generosity in listening to you whine about your Ex for 2 years. Get a grip, get over it and please move on, it’s time…..
xoxo The beavers.

VIEWER QUESTION:

Hi Susan,
I am a single Mom who is starting to go stir crazy due to the lack of male affection I receive. My son is 12 years old and I have raised him by myself for 9 years. His father has limited contact due to his “busy lifestyle”, which gives me 90% access time with my son. I am starting to forget what sex is, and do not want to become one of these bitter women who really just need to get laid! I would be happy if I just had sex once every 2 weeks at this point. It doesn’t have to be a relationship, but I would like it to be with the same guy. Can you steer me in the right direction?
Lonely Mom

ANSWER:

I can totally relate to your question as I had a similar situation while raising my son. There is definitely something to be said for having every other weekend to yourself when your child goes to see the other parent! We all need to re-energize! Our “Friends with Benefits” video may be a good one for you to watch, as we talk about having a partner that is strictly for sex, (with very few strings attached.)

Is your Ex abstaining from enjoying a good sex-life? I think not! Times have changed and both sexes deserve to feel loved or at least sexually satisfied. Get yourself out there and meet a great guy that you can have reciprocal interludes with. You can set your own boundaries and still feel good about yourself. Put that spring back in your step, wipe off the cobwebs and enjoy what nature gave you to use. Orgasms are the new Prozac for Single Moms!
xoxo Susan McCord

VIEWER QUESTION:

I have a friend that is very depressed that she is still single at 40. She has never been married but turns her nose up at men she meets that have also not been married. She also makes comments on trivial things about men and won’t see them again because of it. I don’t understand her double standard and feel this is why she isn’t meeting someone. I have told her she is being negative, and her “]high Maintenance checklist” is ruining her chance of meeting a quality man. She just shrugs it off. She is becoming bitter and it is hard to be around her. I seem to be her only support and her family has never been there for her. What advice do you have for her?
Concerned Pal

ANSWER:

What a great “pal” you are for taking the time to write on her behalf. The message I get from what you wrote, is that she is sabotaging her own happiness by finding fault with each guy she meets. Many people do not feel they deserve to be in a loving relationship and judging by what you said about her family, this is probably the case.

If you weren’t shown love as a child, it is hard to know what it is, or how to bring it into your life. She sounds like she may be getting angry as the years go by, because she hasn’t dealt with this underlying issue. It is interesting how human nature works sometimes. The one thing we really want, we push away! It is all about self-esteem in the end. I would advise that your friend seek some counseling very soon, or she will not only remain single, but also lose you and other friends who are tired of her negativity. It’s never too late to make changes in your life.
xoxo the beavers