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Love is not an easy part of life and most people have had their share of drama in this department. The movie, “It’s complicated”, starring Meryl Streep, Alec Baldwin, & Steve Martin depicts this in a humorous fashion that audiences of all ages can relate to. The basis of this movie is an ex-husband (who has remarried to a much younger woman) falls back in love with his ex-wife and they secretly have an affair. The writers are brilliant and the dialogue is witty with hilarious one liners.

After a break-up, couples go through a huge emotional upheaval, but do the feelings of their initial love ever really go away? There are different types of love and “time frames” in which individuals move on from the hurt. Some people never get over it while others start over in their new lives without a glitch. Is the grass really greener on the other side? Do people walk away too easily today and jump into another relationship because it’s fresh & uncomplicated? Is it our ego or our hearts that are actually feeling the pain when someone walks away? Isn’t there a secret desire for most people to want their ex to regret walking away from the relationship? How many people seek revenge by looking good? Jenny Craig and boot camps become their new best friends. Why isn’t this practiced within the partnership on a regular basis? Is it complacency, laziness or boredom that changes things? Relationship commitment should be run like a business. What company would quit trying to make money or let their concept die? It is a long term investment, not a penny stock.

Look at how many couples consummate their break-ups. As Meryl Streep said in the movie, “It’s Ex with benefits.” (It can be sweet revenge if they are still with the other person that they left the marriage for.) Do you really want to play the devil against karma though? If & when the opportunity arises for a rekindling of romance from the person who left you, it should not be ignored. This is the time to ask the questions & look back at your relationship with a new clarity you acquired from your time apart. The relationship may look completely different now. Dr. John Gray has numerous videos & books on how men & women need to understand each other and it is worth investing time in outside help. We all play a part in relationship breakups and to change the pattern and move on to a more fulfilling path, there has to be acknowledgment.

In the movie, Meryl admitted her faults and chose to move on with a new partner. Not an easy decision when her past love was still there and begging her forgiveness. Understanding and knowing when the relationship has run its course is the lesson to be learned. Having the strength to deal with it, embrace it and own your part in it, is a beautiful life lesson. It may hurt in the process but it will feel like graduation day all over again when you get finally grasp the reality.
Susan McCord

Kira Sabin – The Dating Makeover Coach hosts a radio program on Tuesday nights from Wisconsin USA. We hooked up with Kira via Twitter and tonight Kira and her sidekick Richard from California interviewed Susan and I about Beavertalk. Please click on the video to hear the show.
xoxo The Beavers

MILKMEN & POOLBOYS VIDEO:

DOES THE MILKMAN REALLY DELIVERY THE CREAM?
DOES THE POOL BOY REALLY CLEAN THE POOL?

This is a show about all our wonderful delivery and home services and the employees attached. How many of us ever talk to these people who we see on a daily basis? Do you know their names? Whether it is your residence or place of employment, do you take a moment to look up and say a pleasant hello? Or are you totally attracted to them and really LOVE these service employees and say a lot more than HELLO!

I have spoken with many guys in the delivery industry on this subject but not any women. If you know any stories about women approached by their customers, please write in. From our conversations with men, there are a lot of lonely women sitting at home waiting on that so-called delivery!

There are some amazing stories and not too far off from what transpires on desperate housewives
with “the painters and gardeners! “One Milkman I was recently talking with, said that some women actually meet him at the door wearing sexy lingerie! Of course they are making excuses and apologizing for not being ready to meet someone so early at their front door. OH they were READY all right.

When holidays come, there are extra special treats from the lady of the house.Suggestive comments, little hugs, Christmas cards that are a little more playful. Some of the women are actually competitive with their neighbors about their service man. It is like they are their own personal property!

I asked one Milkman if he ever REALLY delivered (the cream) to any of these ladies temptations. He said NO because he is happily married, but he knew of some younger guys who occasionally indulged. I guess it is like the
Mile High Club; it is a fantasy for some! Why not take advantage of it? Hey, it’s all about job perks isn’t it? I asked my source where they would park the truck during one of these romps. It would be pretty obvious to the neighbors if the milkman stayed longer than a few minutes at a house. It would be OK if she lived in a country home with a very long drive way. He said, that it is basically a quickie so that the truck isn’t sitting too long. I still think it would be noticeable. Every Gladys Kravitz (from Bewitched) would be all over that one.

Pool Boy Service (so to speak) is much easier, especially if you have a closed in garden area. (I have always fantasized about the Pool Boy)! Actually it was the pool I was fantasizing about.) In the movies, Pool Boys are always hot young guys with big packages or is that the Fed-Ex guy? I’m confused…

Not all women like the pool boy. Back in 2006, Britney Spears fired her pool boy for talking too much to her husband Kevin Federline. Jon LaLanne, now an ex-employee, was hanging out a little bit too much and causing Federline to slack off talking to him all the time. Britney was not impressed with Kevin lying around all day. One day LaLanne, said he got a call from Spears’ people, telling him not to report for work. LaLanne, is the son of exercise guru Jack LaLanne. Jon was in a band, so he and Kevin would talk music. He said, Spears would get jealous when her hubby talked to anyone else. “She wants Kevin on a leash,” LaLanne told the mag. “She fires everybody. I figured, ‘Why not me?’ I just didn’t expect her to be so mean.

Another home service is a Traveling Massage Therapist. Could it get any easier than that for a little hanky panky? I once went for a massage in Bangkok and the therapist was blind. The crew all told me about him and how good he was. He wasn’t BLIND! He was maybe a little “sight challenged” but he knew where his hand was every time he said sorry. He was milking it! I wouldn’t have minded so much if he had been 25 and hot but he was about 70.

What about Couriers and the Fed-Ex Guy? Many times they arrive first thing in the morning when people are just getting up and are not yet dressed! Is this done on purpose to catch us in the buff[? Can you imagine how many stories go around their office with what they see and hear at a customer’s home or work environment? We were receiving regular packages for one guy at work from FED EX and we were all started to wonder what he was doing on the side. He has a great sense of humor so we wrote “Rotating Rosemary”- Blow Up Doll in big letters on all sides of the box. Dave the Fed-ex guy, and I were killing ourselves laughing!

Can you imagine how many plain paper packages they deliver with special toys for people? (ohhhh the secrets) That would be a good movie title. “FED-EX stories of customer’s closet fantasies.” Some strippers even use The Fed Ex guy as their dress-up act. So there must be some sexy rewards that come with job in real life. Some of the Fed Ex guys are pretty built from carrying heavy packages around all day. Same with Mail Carriers, how often do you see them over weight?

Here is a funny joke I got online about mailmen:

It’s near Christmas & the mailman is delivering packages. A woman opens the door in a sexy negligee and invites him in. Surprised, he follows her to the bedroom where they proceed to have sex. After it’s over, the woman hands him a dollar. The mailman, puzzled, asked why? The woman replied, “well, while I was making my shopping list I asked my husband, honey, what should we give that nice mailman for Christmas?” and he replied, “fuck the mailman, give him a dollar!”

The beavers have always treated everyone with the same respect regardless of status or occupation. We are all just trying to make our way in life. Some of us show our appreciation more than necessary. Whatever the case, be aware. Some of you may have to deal with Blackmail down the road if you are not careful! Watch the temptation, it may not be worth it in the end. If you are single, go for it and share your details with us!
xoxo the beavers

This is a loaded question and we don’t think people really take enough time going over “The Living Together Checklist!” It is a necessary tool to use when making such a committed decision!

So what should we be looking for and are we looking for the same things down the road? How long have you known each other? Why have you decided to live together? Finances? Convenience? Can’t live without each other? Due to long distance relationship issues?

Do you know and love their quirks? Does it bother you if your guy sits down to pee? (Many relationships break-up over the little aggravations that over time, become huge). One guy I lived with, told me much later, that I never put lids back on things properly. Many times when he would pick something up it would drop on the floor because the lid was fall off. (I don’t know how many broken toes he had from shampoo bottles falling on his feet unexpectedly!) I hated those child -proof caps and once I got them off, I would leave them loose so I didn’t have to fight with them.

People really do sweat the small stuff[
in a partnership. It is always a good idea to have two bathrooms in your communal pad for any “anal preferences” you may have for the toilet paper roll or toothpaste caps! Men have “maybe” 6 bathroom items on their counter and they use I roll of toilet paper a year. They obviously love the smell of their own poop, which is the reason they have a magazine rack by the toilet. They can sit there for 30 minutes reading away…Women have 55,000 toiletry items and go though a 10 pack roll of 4 ply in a week! LOL

What else will your future roommate be bringing into your new home? Kids? Pets? Mother? Austin Power’s shagadelic furniture? Home decorating can be a difficult compromise! She likes pink ruffles, he likes burlap beanbag chairs! What is wrong with a photo of “The Godfather” over the living room fireplace and full length ceiling mirrors in the bedroom? Come on girls you really should be more flexible!

What are the sexual expectations? Things can change drastically when you see each other 24/7! It’s no longer as exciting as the early chase of a new date. Better get into role-playing to keep it exciting! Don’t see each other every evening. Make plans with friends so that they have time to miss you. We seem to want the ones that are not always in our face!

Do a trial living arrangement at each other’s place first This will tell you many things about each other. Is someone more territorial in their own environment? Easy going? Controlling?

The checklist above should help you look at the “living together” scenario before you actually commit to it. That is what dating is all about. Communicating and paying attention to detail could save you many arguments and heartbreak. It is easy to be attracted to someone and even love them, but it is not always easy to co-habitate. Even if the sex is unbelievable, it is not always enough to sustain a partnership.
xoxo the beavers

It is hard enough getting older without having pre-mature grey hair to go with it! We are not just talking about the hair on your head! Just try to find a hair stylist that will dye your pubic hair for you! My last stylist was Gay and when I asked him to match the carpet to the drapes: He loudly declared, “I’m not touching that thing”

It can be a little dangerous to try doing yourself, but many people do. And no one is the wiser that your head hair and pubic hair color are both as phony as most of Hollywood’s breasts!

This can be a very ]high maintenance procedure depending on re-growth, so many women and men, are opting for the Brazilian Bikini wax. (It must look pretty funny when you have roots on your privates) Before you set up an apt for one of these, you may want to watch a video on it. There are many out there for viewing for both sexes! Be forewarned, you may cancel your appointment!

If you have the cash do laser hair removal. It is more permanent and not quite as painful!! No one ever really gets used to the having his or her butt crack waxed! Not even exotic dancers, who are the biggest salon regulars!

Excess hair makes a person perspire more, so if you want to smell sweeter, think about some form of removal. Even on men, it doesn’t always make you smell manly. If you are having sex regularly, it is now considered sexual etiquette to trim the bush. Unless you or your date have a pubic hair fetish! Personally the Sasquatch look doesn’t do it for us!

My girlfriends and I were thinking of having an “After Brazilian Party” or “Bald Beaver Party”. You are only allowed “in” after flashing “your new look” through the mail slot. Each guest must bring before and after photos.

Other Maintenance Tips for both sexes:

1) Buy a ]Satin pillowcase. Cotton wrinkles, and causes morning face creases! As you age, these take longer and longer to go away. Going to the office meeting with a 300-thread count label embedded into your cheek, is not fashionable.

2) Same goes for eye shades, be careful how tight and what material they are made of. Having the nickname “raccoon girl” is not a compliment!

3) Weight Training!
This is one of the best skin tighteners out there! Ladies, it can give you cleavage even if you are only an A cup, I am proof of how muscle gives the illusion that you actually have some boob! And for those double E women, it can keep the girls up a little higher by not allowing the pectoral muscle & ligaments to become too slack or atrophied!

4) This also applies to men in the chest area. Men sag too! No guy wants man-boobs. And no girl wants a guy with bigger breasts than her!

5) Loofa everything! Skin looks old when it is dry!

6) Invest in “Crest white strips” or better yet, teeth lazering is less time consuming and pretty amazing! For the $300 it will cost you, it is worth ten times that much. (Hands/feet and teeth are the first age give-away.)

7) 45 minutes of fast paced Cardio 5 times per week will help keep you in a good weight zone and if you can work up a sweat, your skin will thank you. It is a natural exfoliater and skin softener.

These tips are cost effective and less invasive than cosmetic surgery. Many people do not want to be bothered with keeping themselves younger looking, and grow old naturally. We say fight it all the way!!. You may like the cliché line, “You are as old as you feel”, but we prefer our own saying: “You are as old as you look!”
xoxo the beavers

We have all seen the overbearing mom that just seems to be at every event and very often heads up the PTA meetings as President. While this may be OK for elementary school kids, what happens when Mommy keeps up the stalker-mom tradition when you are married with your own children?

In the sitcom “Everyone Loves Raymond”, Raymond’s mom is a good example of what this segment is all about. She is a troublemaker and cause rifts between her son and his wife regularly.

Some moms just can’t let go…(I was probably a bit of a stalker-mom when my son played hockey.) Sports can be bring out the mama bear who wants to protect her cubs. Anyone who threatens her baby is fair game!

There is also the June Cleaver from “Leave It To Beaver” type, who is the perfect mother and wife. Her whole life revolves around catering to her family’s needs. It is obsessive but not as obtrusive as those controlling and meddling Mommy’s. Obsessive Mom’s don’t want their kids to grow up and keep them around the house longer by making life simple for them. They let them stay rent free in the renovated private basement suite with the 54in Flat screen TV, till they are 30.

It may sound wonderful that she cares so much, but junior will not be a self-sufficient partner down the road. They have had everything done for them since infancy! It builds character when life doesn’t always run so smoothly. The trials and tribulations of life, give a person substance.

If you are a single mom, don’t make your child pay the price of your loneliness. They are not your best friend. They are not there to entertain you and you are not there to live vicariously through them either. You are two individuals who need to respect mother/child boundaries.

My son invites me to things, which sometimes involve his friends. To be honest, it makes me feel a little uncomfortable. Not with him, but with the others. Are they really going to tell him they don’t want his mom there? He can be protective over me, and who knows what he says to them. I don’t want to be known as a stalker-mom because I am hanging out with his friends.

As a parent you need to be aware of how much is too much of anything!
· Dressing like a Cougar
· Embarrassing photos or messages on Facebook
· Calling or texting them repeatedly
· Where and when to lecture
· Know when to cut off your alcohol (when you are with your kid)
· Do not give them your business card if you have a Beaver talk show
· Don’t tell them your bedroom sex stories
· If you are single, do not hang a pull- tab number system on the front door…NEXT!
· Do not bring a wedding planner to every meeting of your kid’s new girl/guy

xoxo the beavers

This Topic requires a lot more than a 20 minute audio, it could be a [tag-tec]HBO series[/tag-tec]! There is so much content on this subject it is ridiculous! Why would anyone want to be famous today with all the [tag-tec]freedom of the press[/tag-tec] and the technology that goes with it?

[tag-tec]Lindsay Lohan[/tag-tec], who is just 22 years old, has so much negative media attention at such a young age! [tag-tec]The paparazzi[/tag-tec] never stops with the [tag-tec]harassment[/tag-tec] and it is not a wonder her [tag-tec]Rehab[/tag-tec] stints have taken place. Alcohol and drugs are her escape! Why are there no charges being laid for these invasive paparazzi bastards? Why do celebrities and other profile people get [tag-tec]bad publicity[/tag-tec] and fined for harassing the paparazzi?

[tag-tec]Princess Diana[/tag-tec] and [tag-tec]Dodi Al-Fayed[/tag-tec] died in a paparazzi car chase back in 1997 and even then, no rules were implemented as to the danger that this constant harassment causes! [tag-tec]Prince William[/tag-tec]’s girlfriend [tag-tec]Kate Middleton[/tag-tec] is swarmed by them daily. That has got to be fearful for William after what happened to his mother!

Fellow Canadian [tag-tec]Pamela Anderson[/tag-tec] wants Congress to put some [tag-tec]anti-stalkerazzi laws[/tag-tec] in place because she is fed up with the constant cameras in hers and her son’s personal life. They even show up at the kid’s baseball games! Can you imagine how much pressure a young kid would feel? I am sure you remember the story back in 1996 with Pam’s Ex, [tag-tec]Tommy Lee[/tag-tec], when he attacked a camera man on [tag-tec]Sunset Strip[/tag-tec] in LA? He was charged $20,000 and had to take [tag-tec]anger management[/tag-tec] classes!

Still no regulations put upon the paparazzi! Why is it so one-sided? There should at least be a law about [tag-tec]celebrities’ children[/tag-tec]. No child should have to endure a frenzy of photographers outside their home/sporting event or playground. Maybe we should organize a [tag-tec]Dirty Harry[/tag-tec] “fight back” group to go [tag-tec]harass the paparazzi[/tag-tec] when they are at home, or out enjoying their personal lives with their kids. Hell, maybe we could hang from a tree and film their sex-life just for good measure.

Non celebrities can file a harassment charge against someone [tag-tec]stalking[/tag-tec] them, so why is this not the case with everyone? [tag-tec]Woody Harrelson[/tag-tec] just recently had a run in with a camera man at La Guardia airport where he was walking with his 12 year old daughter. After Woody ignored him, the camera man got more aggressive and was [tag-tec]taunting[/tag-tec] him. Woody punched the guy and took his camera! Maybe that is the answer, smashing their prized money-making possession; it would be worth the fine to hit them in their sleazy pocketbook

The bottom line here is, everyone is aggravated by these bloodhounds and some of them are causing serious [tag-tec]self-esteem issues[/tag-tec] with young celebrities. They are selling photographs to magazines that are berating and invasive, to anyone who will buy them. Have you ever stopped to think how it would affect you if you were the person they photographed? We all choose our professions but no one should have to deal with constant “in your face” harassment regardless of how much money they make!

A few celebrities have fought back to some degree, [tag-tec]Sean Penn[/tag-tec], Avril Lavigne (spits on them), Cameron Diaz & Justin Timberlake (steal camera and have to pay a settlement to two photographers!), Woody Harrelson more than once, Chris Martin (smashes windshield and slashes tires), [tag-tec]Hugh Grant[/tag-tec] (he throws baked beans), Britney Spears (attacks their SUV), Kayne West (smashed a camera) Mathew McConaughey (has Malibu fans fight the paparazzi for him while he surfs)

We realize that there are [tag-tec]good paparazzi[/tag-tec] that are an asset to many celebrities’ careers and are respected due to the understanding of certain [tag-tec]boundaries[/tag-tec]. But to have the [tag-tec]narrow minded attitude[/tag-tec] that Stars get paid too much money and should quit their whining and put up with it, is immature & jealous. It is [tag-tec]ABUSE[/tag-tec] and no one should have to endure it regardless of stature!
xoxox the beavers

[podcast]http://www.leaveittwobeavers.com/mp3/beavers158-pets_in_bedroom.mp3[/podcast]

How many of you [tag-tec]sleep with your pets[/tag-tec]? We understand how many people love their animals and enjoy the quiet time together, but allowing your pets under the covers is a bad habit to get into!!

I dated this guy who worked with the [tag-tec]Canine Police Squad[/tag-tec] who’s dog went everywhere with him. The dog wouldn’t let his master out of his sight and that included our sex time! [tag-tec]Police Dogs[/tag-tec] can be pretty aggressive when they witness their Master in a hump fest!

Just when you least expect it, a cold nose is up your butt or your feet are being licked, and it’s not your partner!

One of my girlfriends broke up with her boyfriend because of his big dog taking up her side of the bed. Every time she spent the night, if the dog wasn’t already in the bed, his fur and dirty remnants were there to remind her he had been. She even found one of his bones! Gives a whole new meaning to boner!! LOL

Allowing your pet on top of the duvet, on a bottom corner of the bed, is one thing, but when Lassie is between the sheets with her paw across your ass or face is another!

How much sleep do you really think you are getting with an animal snoring, stretching, purring, scratching and [tag-tec]licking their balls[/tag-tec], all night beside you?

Believe it or not dogs can be [tag-tec]co-dependent[/tag-tec] and once you let down your guard to let them sleep in “your kingdom”, you have opened a big can of worms. Who hasn’t heard the term “[tag-tec]separation anxiety[/tag-tec]”!!

Part of the reason dogs and other pets feel this anxiety, is because WE are turning them into humans! We dress them in coats and shoes, give them pedicures, jewelery, and feed them the same food we eat for dinner!

The final touch is their own personal pillow to sleep on, between our 400-thread count, Christian Dior, King Size sheets! Hello?? What are we doing?

Are we that lonely in or out of a relationship? Are we substituting?

[tag-tec]Pets that misbehave[/tag-tec] have no respect for your home, and should not be rewarded by interfering in your love life too. If they are allowed to become the household boss, your relationship will take a second seat!

One of my girlfriends had a Cocker Spaniel that was so spoiled I couldn’t stand to be around it. She was on about the 4th date with this guy she really liked when all Hell broke loose.

She put his expensive leather coat on the bed and the dog was so jealous of the new guy, that he tore it to shreds! He slept in that bed every night and was very [tag-tec]territorial[/tag-tec]. She thought it was funny! Needless to say, they didn’t last long after that. He didn’t like the competition. Ya think????

When my son was born and first home from the hospital, my cat was very protective and did everything possible to sleep in his bassinet. It didn’t matter where my son slept; the cats mission was to be beside him or on top of him…Very scary, as he could have been suffocated. I had to lock him in another room at night. Sadly, we had to eventually give him to another family.

Can you imagine how hot it would be during menopause with a 100 lb dog in your bed beside you? I recently looked after my friend’s cat for a week. One of those big fluffy pink things, with the flat face.
It would come in at night jump on my chest and scare the shit out of me. Then once it woke me up would stick its ass in my face and start purring!! Cats are weird!! Plus, fluffy cats always have something stuck on their butt fur! I almost shaved her cat as bald as one of those [tag-tec]Sphynx cats[/tag-tec]!

There was so much cat fur left in my condo, all of my shirts looked like they were Angora sweaters!!

I guess by now you know we are not in favor of [tag-tec]animals in our beds[/tag-tec]. On the bed, once in a while maybe, but between the sheets? We’ve got better ideas! I would rather be shaking pecker hairs off the sheets than [tag-tec]animal hair[/tag-tec] and dandruff! Any anyone sticking their butt in our faces will not be short and hairy.
Xoxo the beavers

[podcast]http://www.leaveittwobeavers.com/mp3/Text_in_the_city.mp3[/podcast]
With all the [tag-tec]new technology[/tag-tec] in the market today, it doesn’t surprise us that the age range of 18-34 seems to have it all! Come to think of it, how many kids under 10, don’t walk around with a cell phone today?

There is no excuse not to be able to get a hold of someone, which can be good or bad! The interesting thing now is, the phone calls seem to have been replaced by [tag-tec]texting[/tag-tec] for the most part. This has to be a relief for some parents due to the fear of the [tag-tec]cell phone and brain tumor[/tag-tec] correlation.

Why has texting become so popular? Because it’s fast and easy and usually pretty cheap! It is also less invasive, especially if your phone is on vibrate. I used it a lot on my International layovers to have continual access to family at home at a much cheaper cost than long distance charges. It is also great in restaurants, meetings, movie theatres and appts. where phone conversations are prohibited.

While this is wonderful for all age groups, the biggest form of [tag-tec]dating & flirting[/tag-tec] has now become cell phone texting.

Here are a few of the Dating Pros of [tag-tec]text messages[/tag-tec]:
· No face to face [tag-tec]intimidation[/tag-tec]

· There is less rejection felt, if you are brushed off gently (can’t see you blushing of embarrassment)

· Can lead up to a date by numerous [tag-tec]flirtatious one liners[/tag-tec] and get a feel for reciprocated interest

· The pressure is not on men as much to ask a woman out now. It’s more equal.

· Not having to spend awkward hours on the telephone just to get up the nerve to ask someone out. Most guys hate talking on the phone!

· Texting makes you get to the point fast, so it makes you think first before writing

· Texting is a casual way of getting to know someone whom you just met

Don’t be afraid to try this out if you haven’t already…it could lead to something very interesting! xoxo The Beavers

[podcast]http://www.leaveittwobeavers.com/mp3/Texting_Etiquette.mp3[/podcast]

1) Do not drink and text! Same as [tag-tec]Drinking and Dialing[/tag-tec] -- just not a good plan!

2) Text at appropriate hours…after 11PM can have [tag-tec]booty-call[/tag-tec] intentions

3) Do not [tag-tec]break-up over a text[/tag-tec] especially if it was a long relationship!

4) Bad news should be said in person not in a text message. And if you can’t do it in person, talk to them on the phone.

5) Only [tag-tec]text in lighted areas[/tag-tec] or you could send it to the wrong person!

6) Remember your messages can be forwarded to others, so be careful what you say

7) Never threaten anyone in a text. It can be used as [tag-tec]harassment evidence.[/tag-tec]

Your face says a thousand words even while texting, so be careful who’s watching!

9) Do not spend time texting others while you are on a date! Even if your just visiting the washroom

Susan and I have discussed using online dating sites before, but like most avenues of the date search world, it has its limitations and risks. One of those risks is becoming addicted to these online sites(yes we’re talking about you!) But that’s not the only risk.

On the other hand, a professional dating service will cost you a lot more than a $20.00 online membership fee, but if you’ve already used up the options of friends playing matchmaker & online dating websites with little or no success, then it’s time to spend a few more dollars and take the professional service plunge. Prices do vary substantially, dependant on the kind of services each agency offers, so doing a little research will help you to find a service that is both affordable for you and meets your requirements.

Through our Beavertalk Twitter Page , we discovered this very cool lady in Chicago who runs a dating service company called Kira Sabin, The Dating Makeover Coach (Meet Love Halfway) that combines ways to help those looking for a companion sort through the maze. First, she is a dating coach. When I hear the words dating coach, my first thought is of the movie “Hitch” starring Will Smith, which ironically is a great first date movie.

Kira’s website offers 5 service packages (quoted in USD):
1) At Home Makeover Dating Package – $150.00
2) Dating Makeover with Coaching – $750.00
3) Power Sessions – $50.00 each.
4) Full Dating Makeover – the whole shebang – Pricing varies
5) Dating Makeover Club – teleclasses, webinars & emails – $75.00

Her website describes her six week dating coaching program which helps you to discover why you’ve been having difficulties connecting up in the dating world, among other things. Step 1 – admit you have a problem? Exactly.

The second feature she offers is a traditional dating service where she looks for others within her database that might be a good match for you. Sound familiar? Hold on, there is a twist. What is different about her matchmaking service is that she organizes group outings with other matched up couples to events like dinners, shows, etc…settings where all of the group daters have a similar interest. This arrangement allows the daters to be more relaxed during the outing because they have others to speak with to fill any awkward moments that usually occur on a first date when there is typically just two of you. I personally think this approach is brilliant, but it may not be for everyone.

Here are the Beavers’ top 5 reasons for using a professional dating service:
1) All clients are prescreened – not something available with typical online dating sites
2) Direct face to face contact with experts in the field of companionship
3) Privacy & discretion
4) Professional advice by certified coaching/counseling staff
5) Less wasted time searching & when you do arrange a date, you are not likely to be stood up!

Is it time to venture into the professional dating services realm to find the right companion for you?
XOX – The Beavers.

Twitter has become a juggernaut in the [tag-tec]micro-blogging[/tag-tec] arena, launched in July 2006. The main competitors to Twitter have been Plurk and Jaiku. Other sites like Facebook, [tag-tec]MySpace[/tag-tec], LinkedIn, and Xing have their own micro-blogging features known as status updates.

Q. What is Twitter and where did they come up with that name?

[tag-tec]Twitter[/tag-tec] is a B2B social networking site where you can send quick updates and information in 140 characters (or less) from your computer, cell phone or PDA. In Nov. 2008, it was estimated that Twitter had between 4-5 million users. No word on the street as to why they came up with the name Twitter, but it is rather cute.
The terms Tweet and Twitter actually sound a bit silly. Adults telling me they’re going to go tweet some peeps kind of makes me think I should giggle madly in a school girl kind of way and swish my poodle skirt from side to side. But as nostalgic as these words sound, it is as modern a process as you can get in social networking.
Q. Is there a bit of ego involved with how many followers you have, like the Facebook friends list?

For some it is a mad dash to see how many followers they can amass. With Twitter’s explosion of popularity, for some it’s become more of a popularity contest than it is a legit business social network.
Regardless of all these time wasters, there IS a load of excellent contacts and information sharing on Twitter and you’d be remis to not check it out. You’ll just have to do your best to keep from being distracted! (easier said than done).

And how easy is it to get lost in the game of tweeting your peeps or checking out who’s on the tweetvine while at work? The tweets come in fast and furious so your first skill set to hone is the one where you are able to pass over the useless crap – like the guy last night complaining about the desk he bought at Ikea, or people discussing what they are eating while they’re tweeting. Seriously – I don’t give a tweet about your damned microwave popcorn addictions!
On the upside, Twitter has loads of apps which have been created to make your Twitter experience more interesting and interactive such as, but not limited to: Twirhl, Twitterific, Tweetdeck & Opera

Q. What other [tag-tec]websites link[/tag-tec] to Twitter to save time, like Tubemogul?

When we upload one of our videos to a video-sharing site like Viddler.com, an automatic tweet is issued to alert our peeps that we have new content, which is a very cool application.

One thing I’d be interested to know is, how many people have “hooked up” in a sexual kind of way via their “Twitter experience” LOL

We have many friends who only date through [tag-tec]online resources[/tag-tec]. This is mainly due to age, time and busy careers. You don’t even have to dress for the occasion unless you’re socializing with them through a [tag-tec]Web cam[/tag-tec]. It is almost too easy, and this is what causes the addiction! It can be very exciting for some people who have always had a minimal personal life, to all of a sudden getting 5 e-mails a day, from [tag-tec]prospective dates[/tag-tec]!

Part of the problem is, the addiction is not necessarily even with meeting the contacts. And if you do end up meeting them, many people do not want to take their profiles off the dating site, in case it doesn’t work out. Can you say, “have your cake and eat it too”?

Even just [tag-tec]online chatting[/tag-tec], can keep people interested for a few months and you never end up meeting them, because that is all they want. Personally, that would make up our mind really quick! [tag-tec]Red Flags[/tag-tec]! (They are probably married or in a relationship or already have too many on their favorites list.)

I went on Lava–life for 3 months a few years ago and I actually enjoyed it for the short time I was there. The three guys I did end up dating, were all true to who they said they were. One of them I dated for a few months but he ended up having his own addictions LOL.

The biggest problem I found with online dating, was how many of my friends were contacted by the same men I was hooking up with. It feels like they are cheating on you but truly they aren’t. It is “all fair” until you remove yourself off the site, and become exclusive with them.

One of my girlfriends just recently discovered her guy, (who was just a little bit too fucking busy most of the time) was dating about 4 other women as well. He used the same excuse with all of them and they believed him??? One girl discovered this, and broke the news to the others. She somehow hacked into his e-mail!

Just because it seems easy, you should still have the same morals and values you have always had. Don’t let too many things go, or give excuses for everything either. Know what “you want” going in! Make a list and try not to stray too far from your desires. All of these girls allowed this guy to have way too many excuses as to why his time was limited with them. When someone is into you, they will make it happen.

9 SIGNS YOU ARE ADDICTED:
· The minute you get home you turn on your computer
· You socialize less with friends
· You eat your meals, blow dry your hair, brush your teeth and do yoga in front of the computer so you don’t miss anything
· You check to see what your past dates are doing on line!
· You are going to bed later and later due to online chats
· You are becoming moody with regards to lack of online responses.
· You get depressed when there are no contacts everyday.
· You are [tag-tec]becoming introverted[/tag-tec] and removed.
· You have approached the same people more than once without realizing it.

Online dating is a great option especially with the economy spiraling and people are not going out as much. Meeting people is harder when you are older, as there are only so many venues that cater to the over 35 crowd.

It is a good idea to limit yourself to only one dating site, some people are on three or more. That is just egotistical! We would actually recommend staying away from the “free dating sites”, as everybody and their dog joins them, as they have nothing to lose! Most of our girlfriends are frustrated with those sites because no one follows through with anything.
There are a few sites out there that cost a little more but they do the screening for you, and save you hours of chat time and searches. They match YOU up! People are more serious when they have to pay for something, the old saying: “you get what you pay for”, comes to mind!

In closing, don’t be shy of [tag-tec]dating online[/tag-tec], but keep your eyes open all the time. If any of the above addictions are becoming a part of your life, re-evaluate how you got to this place and make some changes! With so much to chose from and so many frivolous situations pending, how will you ever meet someone of substance? If you were true to yourself and selective with your priorities in a [tag-tec]potential partner[/tag-tec], there would never be that much of a Roster. It’s not about the quantity; it’s always been about quality at the end of the day.
xoxo the beavers

“Mystery” is everything when you are first starting out with someone new. It is [tag-tec]“the lure[/tag-tec]“, that will keep someone coming back. If you are [tag-tec]too available[/tag-tec] or [tag-tec]too accommodating[/tag-tec], you are not much of a challenge. We all need a little of that in our lives as it prevents boredom!

“[tag-tec]Playing Hard To Get[/tag-tec]“, is just a generalization used for some people in [tag-tec]the dating market[/tag-tec]. It could just as easily be called: “How to keep them interested” There are obvious things not to do, but the main objective of this topic today is to help understand why some relationships in the early stages, do not develop into something more. If you are [tag-tec]seeing a pattern[/tag-tec], this may be a good segment for you.

People use this line often: “I am not into playing games. If they don’t like me for who I am, too bad”. While it is great to be true to yourself, you should never give all of you, in the first few dates. (or ever!) No one is looking for your entire life biography, and if you lay out everything too quickly, the [tag-tec]mystique[/tag-tec] is gone and you are already [tag-tec]predictable[/tag-tec]. Have you ever watched a cat at a friends place? Who are they attracted to? It is usually the one who pays the least attention to them! Giving cats that elusive reputation they have acquired.

Think about purchasing a book, what is the first thing that draws you? The cover, and title right? Would you go into the bookstore, pick up an interesting book, and read the last chapter first?
Not appealing? No intrigue? No buildup? A quick beginning and hasty ending? Where is the filling, the substance and the meat of the story? In the middle right?
Same for a relationship!!

A person wants to feel special, but not at someone’s expense. If they are living “for you” and giving up their own needs constantly to please you, how do you respect them in the long run? They are actually [tag-tec]co-dependent[/tag-tec] because they need to make you “their everything” to be happy. No one wants someone who is a [tag-tec]kiss-ass[/tag-tec]! Couples that work well, have a balance and they may not even know it. They put time for themselves and each other equally, so there is no resentment.

Here are some suggestions to think about when you first start dating someone and you want this type of relationship down the road: (this goes for both sexes)

Don’t hand them every contact number you have including your Grandmother in Idaho! When they do contact you, be gracious but don’t drop everything you have planned to see them. Compromise but still make it on your time. If you really can’t make the first few dates, offer them an alternate day, or they may lose interest if it is too much work. Keep them at a [tag-tec]comfortable distance[/tag-tec] but wanting more of you! Don’t jump into bed in the first month no matter how much you want to hump their cute little ass. Make sure that the person you are pursuing is interested! There is a difference between them playing hard to get, and being cold and removed. Never compete with anyone for this person! Be confident. Keep things new and fresh. Do not make your friends or children a last priority, they were there 1st!

“Playing hard to get”, basically works if you are flexible and somewhat elusive. Needy or pushy people will always be looking for a new date, because that type of behaviour grows old! Even if the sex is incredible! Who needs the drama? If someone has a full life and is happy with their choices, you entering it as their partner, will benefit both of you. (Because it allows you to have your own life as well.) Playing a little hard to get, [tag-tec]sets a precedent[/tag-tec] right from the start that says I’m interested, but I have a life without you too…xoxo the beavers

• (We have heard from a few sources, that the term Cougar was derived in the late 1980's in the NHL [tag-tec]Vancouver Canucks[/tag-tec] dressing room by the players who described the hot older women who came to watch their games.)

  [tag-tec]Ivana Trump[/tag-tec] married a guy who is 24 years younger, she is 59! Is she still considered a Cougar at 59? [tag-tec]Demi Moore[/tag-tec] is in her 40's and married much younger Ashton Kutcher. Susan Sarrandon and Tim Robbins are 12 years apart, her being older. FINALLY! It is not a [tag-tec]double standard[/tag-tec] world anymore, where older men are the only ones dating someone 15 years younger.

  There is a new show coming out, that is based on "The Bachelor/Bachelorette TV series". This show stars a [tag-tec]40 year old[/tag-tec], attractive woman who has to choose a much younger man out of 25 contestants. Some of the guys are 21! While we do think this is a good idea to have a single older woman in the running, would most of us truly be happy long term with a man this much younger than us?

  Isn't it hard enough getting older without having the reminder of our age by being with someone who has totally different tastes and energy levels than us? Even if we could keep up with them for a few years, how realistic is it, that the relationship will bring us our [tag-tec]soul mate[/tag-tec] for the rest of our lives?

  Relationships are hard enough to keep going with someone our own age, and if we just want to have fun and [tag-tec]great sex [/tag-tec] for a year or so, it could work out nicely. I would think that the majority of older women would like to settle down and find a compatible partner within a ten year age span, preferably...

  Most 21 year olds don't have a clue who they are yet, and are still into partying and Rap music. Do you really want to babysit a guy or at the very least be his teacher? Unless he has a huge inheritance, chances are you will end up paying for everything too!

  Why don't men have a name after 40? Why haven't women developed a title for hot older men? Or have we missed hearing it? There are all sorts of names for younger guys, Pool boy,Toy Boy, Jethroe. (Cute but dumb) But what about some delicious stereotype we could attach to older men?

  What are the Attributes and Detriments of a Cougar?

  A Cougar is a classy and attractive older woman, usually [tag-tec]35-50[/tag-tec]. (there are more and more women looking hot into their late 50's now too) ·
  They dress trendy, but age appropriate... bare midriffs/cleavage/miniskirts are a bit skanky after 40 even if you have the body to wear them. ·
  [tag-tec]www.urbancougar.com[/tag-tec] is devoted to older women who like to hunt younger men ·
  Hot Older Mom's could be a threat to their sons ·
  The Movie, the Graduate featuring [tag-tec]Mrs. Robinson[/tag-tec], has become real life situations today, but not without major lawsuits! ·
  Cougars are now money makers on TV:[tag-tec]Sex and the City[/tag-tec], Desperate Housewives, [tag-tec]Lipstick Jungle[/tag-tec] ·
  Confident, well maintained bodies or happy with their body. Sexually secure ([tag-tec]Botox[/tag-tec] and Fillers have helped big time with feeling good about aging)
  The term "Cougar", usually means that a woman is a [tag-tec]sexual predator[/tag-tec] for younger men and is not concerned with commitment. She likes the freedom to hunt and keep moving along. Not all hot older women appreciate the term, and people should be discreet with throwing this stereotype around. xoxo the beavers

Guys will walk by you with their newspaper and happily tell you they will be going for the morning release, like they are proud of it! (We are surprised they don’t have a cigarette after). Sometimes they even come out and describe it! There is probably a website called bigdump.com

THE DAILY with KEVIN HAYES – February 2009

INTERVIEW WITH THE BEAVERS

The beavers do an interview with TV/radio personality Kevin Hayes in Vancouver, Canada. Kevin candidly asks personal questions to the girls which they answer honestly and humourously. Sometimes put on the spot by the outspoken talk show host, the girls hold their own and don’t miss a beat with their quick thinking responses.

Kevin Hayes has been in the broadcasting business for 15 plus years and is well respected in the industry. He is also taking on a new animation project that will be a huge success. Kevin has been a fan of beavertalk.com since it started four years ago. He loves Susan and Sandra’s outlook on their interesting yet funny, Lifestyle, Sex & Relationship topics. Their show is new and refreshing and makes their audience think! The girls are very fair regarding the male/female genders and the whole concept of their show, is to make men and women understand and appreciate each other! A simple format that works. (Their shows are available in Audio Podcasts, Video clips, and Blog)

http://www.beavertalk.com
http://www.youtube.com/twobeavers

Being good in bed is an attribute we all should have. Whether you are dating or in a relationship, being a great lover will keep them coming back for more. (so to speak!)

Steak & BJ Day vs. Valentine’s Day Video:

Whether it is “Valentine’s Day” or [tag-tec]“Steak & B.J. Day”[/tag-tec], everyone handles the occasion differently. The pressure to live up to the expectations of the hype surrounding these days on the calendar, can be overwhelming for many. Especially single people!. It’s just a reminder once again, that they have no [tag-tec]significant other[/tag-tec] to celebrate with.

But on Steak & BJ Day, everyone can join in whether single or not! Men would line up for a partner on March 14th~

Markets are getting smart and cashing in on this for both dates. There are many Venues that advertise singles only for a Valentine’s Bash. There is one in Toronto called the Heartless Valentines Day and it is an event strictly for singles. How many people do you know that will not go out on V.D if they are single? I have always thought it would be a good day to go to a bar or lounge, because all the couples are out for dinner and anyone in the bar would probably be unattached!

Problem is, most single people feel insecure about being OUT on the most [tag-tec]romantic day[/tag-tec] of the year! Which is why clubs are now catering to changing this. I think women may be a bit intimidated to go out on March 14th, knowing what men want on that day! Especially if the guy is wearing his “Steak & BJ” T-shirt!

Steak & BJ day was founded due to [tag-tec]Valentine’s day pressure[/tag-tec] on men. Feb. 14th is on the calendar for businesses to make money and to piss off most guys! Shouldn’t we show this [tag-tec]“Feb. 14th[/tag-tec] romance” more than once a year, without having it as a Hallmark Occasion? Steak & BJ.com has [tag-tec]online greeting cards[/tag-tec] to give your man on his special day girls, but they are not very flowery or romantic. (Actually, March 14th is usually the day I do my annual enema) LOL

Girls we shouldn’t really complain about “their” day, as it is not an expensive evening. They will probably even let you hold the remote control while giving them pleasure, and I doubt that they would mind if you used one of though little blow up airline pillows for neck support!
There is a Steak & BJ Group on [tag-tec]Facebook[/tag-tec]with over 33,000 members. Yes, there were even a few women in the group! One guy wrote on the FB page…“T-bone for me, Tubesteak for her … you have to laugh a little at that!

Just how big of a deal is Valentines Day to you? If you’re in for an animated female version of South Park, this video will entertain you We found it via Ashton Kutcher’s Twitter page (@aplusk) – Blah Girls.com…