Love is not an easy part of life and most people have had their share of drama in this department. The movie, “It’s complicated”, starring Meryl Streep, Alec Baldwin, & Steve Martin depicts this in a humorous fashion that audiences of all ages can relate to. The basis of this movie is an ex-husband (who has remarried to a much younger woman) falls back in love with his ex-wife and they secretly have an affair. The writers are brilliant and the dialogue is witty with hilarious one liners.

After a break-up, couples go through a huge emotional upheaval, but do the feelings of their initial love ever really go away? There are different types of love and “time frames” in which individuals move on from the hurt. Some people never get over it while others start over in their new lives without a glitch. Is the grass really greener on the other side? Do people walk away too easily today and jump into another relationship because it’s fresh & uncomplicated? Is it our ego or our hearts that are actually feeling the pain when someone walks away? Isn’t there a secret desire for most people to want their ex to regret walking away from the relationship? How many people seek revenge by looking good? Jenny Craig and boot camps become their new best friends. Why isn’t this practiced within the partnership on a regular basis? Is it complacency, laziness or boredom that changes things? Relationship commitment should be run like a business. What company would quit trying to make money or let their concept die? It is a long term investment, not a penny stock.

Look at how many couples consummate their break-ups. As Meryl Streep said in the movie, “It’s Ex with benefits.” (It can be sweet revenge if they are still with the other person that they left the marriage for.) Do you really want to play the devil against karma though? If & when the opportunity arises for a rekindling of romance from the person who left you, it should not be ignored. This is the time to ask the questions & look back at your relationship with a new clarity you acquired from your time apart. The relationship may look completely different now. Dr. John Gray has numerous videos & books on how men & women need to understand each other and it is worth investing time in outside help. We all play a part in relationship breakups and to change the pattern and move on to a more fulfilling path, there has to be acknowledgment.

In the movie, Meryl admitted her faults and chose to move on with a new partner. Not an easy decision when her past love was still there and begging her forgiveness. Understanding and knowing when the relationship has run its course is the lesson to be learned. Having the strength to deal with it, embrace it and own your part in it, is a beautiful life lesson. It may hurt in the process but it will feel like graduation day all over again when you get finally grasp the reality.
Susan McCord

DOES THE MILKMAN REALLY DELIVERY THE CREAM?
DOES THE POOL BOY REALLY CLEAN THE POOL?

This is a show about all our wonderful delivery and home services and the employees attached. How many of us ever talk to these people who we see on a daily basis? Do you know their names? Whether it is your residence or place of employment, do you take a moment to look up and say a pleasant hello? Or are you totally attracted to them and really LOVE these service employees and say a lot more than HELLO!

I have spoken with many guys in the delivery industry on this subject but not any women. If you know any stories about women approached by their customers, please write in. From our conversations with men, there are a lot of lonely women sitting at home waiting on that so-called delivery!

There are some amazing stories and not too far off from what transpires on desperate housewives
with “the painters and gardeners! “One Milkman I was recently talking with, said that some women actually meet him at the door wearing sexy lingerie! Of course they are making excuses and apologizing for not being ready to meet someone so early at their front door. OH they were READY all right.

When holidays come, there are extra special treats from the lady of the house.Suggestive comments, little hugs, Christmas cards that are a little more playful. Some of the women are actually competitive with their neighbors about their service man. It is like they are their own personal property!

I asked one Milkman if he ever REALLY delivered (the cream) to any of these ladies temptations. He said NO because he is happily married, but he knew of some younger guys who occasionally indulged. I guess it is like the
Mile High Club; it is a fantasy for some! Why not take advantage of it? Hey, it’s all about job perks isn’t it? I asked my source where they would park the truck during one of these romps. It would be pretty obvious to the neighbors if the milkman stayed longer than a few minutes at a house. It would be OK if she lived in a country home with a very long drive way. He said, that it is basically a quickie so that the truck isn’t sitting too long. I still think it would be noticeable. Every Gladys Kravitz (from Bewitched) would be all over that one.

Pool Boy Service (so to speak) is much easier, especially if you have a closed in garden area. (I have always fantasized about the Pool Boy)! Actually it was the pool I was fantasizing about.) In the movies, Pool Boys are always hot young guys with big packages or is that the Fed-Ex guy? I’m confused…

Not all women like the pool boy. Back in 2006, Britney Spears fired her pool boy for talking too much to her husband Kevin Federline. Jon LaLanne, now an ex-employee, was hanging out a little bit too much and causing Federline to slack off talking to him all the time. Britney was not impressed with Kevin lying around all day. One day LaLanne, said he got a call from Spears’ people, telling him not to report for work. LaLanne, is the son of exercise guru Jack LaLanne. Jon was in a band, so he and Kevin would talk music. He said, Spears would get jealous when her hubby talked to anyone else. “She wants Kevin on a leash,” LaLanne told the mag. “She fires everybody. I figured, ‘Why not me?’ I just didn’t expect her to be so mean.

Another home service is a Traveling Massage Therapist. Could it get any easier than that for a little hanky panky? I once went for a massage in Bangkok and the therapist was blind. The crew all told me about him and how good he was. He wasn’t BLIND! He was maybe a little “sight challenged” but he knew where his hand was every time he said sorry. He was milking it! I wouldn’t have minded so much if he had been 25 and hot but he was about 70.

What about Couriers and the Fed-Ex Guy? Many times they arrive first thing in the morning when people are just getting up and are not yet dressed! Is this done on purpose to catch us in the buff[? Can you imagine how many stories go around their office with what they see and hear at a customer’s home or work environment? We were receiving regular packages for one guy at work from FED EX and we were all started to wonder what he was doing on the side. He has a great sense of humor so we wrote “Rotating Rosemary”- Blow Up Doll in big letters on all sides of the box. Dave the Fed-ex guy, and I were killing ourselves laughing!

Can you imagine how many plain paper packages they deliver with special toys for people? (ohhhh the secrets) That would be a good movie title. “FED-EX stories of customer’s closet fantasies.” Some strippers even use The Fed Ex guy as their dress-up act. So there must be some sexy rewards that come with job in real life. Some of the Fed Ex guys are pretty built from carrying heavy packages around all day. Same with Mail Carriers, how often do you see them over weight?

Here is a funny joke I got online about mailmen:

It’s near Christmas & the mailman is delivering packages. A woman opens the door in a sexy negligee and invites him in. Surprised, he follows her to the bedroom where they proceed to have sex. After it’s over, the woman hands him a dollar. The mailman, puzzled, asked why? The woman replied, “well, while I was making my shopping list I asked my husband, honey, what should we give that nice mailman for Christmas?” and he replied, “fuck the mailman, give him a dollar!”

The beavers have always treated everyone with the same respect regardless of status or occupation. We are all just trying to make our way in life. Some of us show our appreciation more than necessary. Whatever the case, be aware. Some of you may have to deal with Blackmail down the road if you are not careful! Watch the temptation, it may not be worth it in the end. If you are single, go for it and share your details with us!
xoxo the beavers

This is a loaded question and we don’t think people really take enough time going over “The Living Together Checklist!” It is a necessary tool to use when making such a committed decision!

So what should we be looking for and are we looking for the same things down the road? How long have you known each other? Why have you decided to live together? Finances? Convenience? Can’t live without each other? Due to long distance relationship issues?

Do you know and love their quirks? Does it bother you if your guy sits down to pee? (Many relationships break-up over the little aggravations that over time, become huge). One guy I lived with, told me much later, that I never put lids back on things properly. Many times when he would pick something up it would drop on the floor because the lid was fall off. (I don’t know how many broken toes he had from shampoo bottles falling on his feet unexpectedly!) I hated those child -proof caps and once I got them off, I would leave them loose so I didn’t have to fight with them.

People really do sweat the small stuff[
in a partnership. It is always a good idea to have two bathrooms in your communal pad for any “anal preferences” you may have for the toilet paper roll or toothpaste caps! Men have “maybe” 6 bathroom items on their counter and they use I roll of toilet paper a year. They obviously love the smell of their own poop, which is the reason they have a magazine rack by the toilet. They can sit there for 30 minutes reading away…Women have 55,000 toiletry items and go though a 10 pack roll of 4 ply in a week! LOL

What else will your future roommate be bringing into your new home? Kids? Pets? Mother? Austin Power’s shagadelic furniture? Home decorating can be a difficult compromise! She likes pink ruffles, he likes burlap beanbag chairs! What is wrong with a photo of “The Godfather” over the living room fireplace and full length ceiling mirrors in the bedroom? Come on girls you really should be more flexible!

What are the sexual expectations? Things can change drastically when you see each other 24/7! It’s no longer as exciting as the early chase of a new date. Better get into role-playing to keep it exciting! Don’t see each other every evening. Make plans with friends so that they have time to miss you. We seem to want the ones that are not always in our face!

Do a trial living arrangement at each other’s place first This will tell you many things about each other. Is someone more territorial in their own environment? Easy going? Controlling?

The checklist above should help you look at the “living together” scenario before you actually commit to it. That is what dating is all about. Communicating and paying attention to detail could save you many arguments and heartbreak. It is easy to be attracted to someone and even love them, but it is not always easy to co-habitate. Even if the sex is unbelievable, it is not always enough to sustain a partnership.
xoxo the beavers